Based on Dr. Peter Favaro's "Bad People Bible" - Document, analyze, and strategize your way to psychological freedom.
Document incidents, analyze patterns, and build your reality record with guided prompts.
Evaluate relationship toxicity levels and get targeted strategy recommendations.
Learn and practice proven techniques for psychological protection and strategic response.
Welcome! Start by taking the risk assessment or begin journaling to track your progress.
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Answer these questions based on your experiences with the person you're concerned about. Rate each statement from 1 (never) to 4 (always).
Strategic thinking begins with the pause between stimulus and response.
When: They provoke, demand, or pressure you
How: "Let me think about that and get back to you"
Why: Prevents reactive decisions and emotional manipulation
Become emotionally uninteresting to reduce their desire to engage.
When: They seek drama or emotional reactions
How: Brief, factual responses. No emotional content.
Example: "Okay." "I understand." "Thanks for letting me know."
Create an objective record to counter gaslighting and track patterns.
What: Date, time, what happened, your emotional response
Why: Validates your reality and reveals behavioral patterns
Tool: Use this journal to track incidents consistently
Pre-planned responses for common boundary violations.
For pressure: "I'm not available for that conversation"
For guilt: "I understand you're disappointed"
For demands: "That doesn't work for me"
Repeat your position calmly without getting drawn into arguments.
When: They argue, justify, or demand explanations
How: Repeat the same calm statement
Example: "My decision stands" (repeat as needed)
Identify their behavioral cycles to predict and prepare for escalations.
Look for: Triggers, escalation patterns, manipulation cycles
Track: What happens before, during, and after incidents
Use: Knowledge to avoid triggers or prepare defenses
Build relationships with people who validate your reality and support your wellbeing.
Purpose: Counter isolation and gaslighting
Share: Your experiences with trusted friends/family
Seek: Professional support when needed
Strategic planning for reducing contact or leaving toxic relationships.
Phase 1: Reduce emotional investment
Phase 2: Build independence (financial, social, emotional)
Phase 3: Execute transition with minimal drama